Coming Soon: Relationship Rehab - Ending the Crazy Making

I'm currently working on writing a series of blogs and articles based on defining, describing, breaking down, understanding, and ending Crazy-Making in relationships. This will be a series written for both sides of the slash in a relationship dynamic where one or both you are reacting to conflict with Crazy-Making Tactics that eat through loving relationships like hydrochloric acid eats through steel.

If you find you're the partner who is being driven nuts by these jekyl and hyde evasion games, and you are at your wits end with your partner and trying to hold space for this relationship, this series will help you:

• Understand what's really going on in the psyche of your crazy-making partner or spouse
• Evaluate if your partner is capable of and ready to take ownership for their crazymaking and become an active participant in growing your relationship.
• How to make your partner aware of what they are doing to your relationship, without triggering greater conflict or evasion.
• How to tell if your partner is actively gas-lighting you vs them having developed crazymaking tactics through a series of traumatic childhood experiences andor traumatic adulthood experiences.
• How to own your own emotions andor reactiveness to their crazy-making, that has been contributing to the downward spiral of your relationship.
• How to practice better boundaries, better selfcare and better self talk whether or not you decide it's worthwhile to continue holding space and see if your partner can come around.

If you're the partner whose being told or whom has just come to the realization that you are the one making so much crazy, this series will help you identify what behaviors you're using that are creating chaos and disharmony in your relationship, and how to:

• Idenitfy when you're distressed or reactive, and build healthy distress tolerance skills.
• Identify when you're projecting and see undistorted reality.
• Identify healthy reponses to relational stress and conflict
• Own whats yours to own and let go of whats not yours to own; in your past relationships, as well as your current ones.
• How to retrain your brain to practice healthy attachment skills.

 And hopefully a lot more, if I'm any good at what I do!

I'm hoping to roll out this series starting Sat July 21st, and will do a daily Relationship Rehab - Ending the Crazy Making posts from there on out.